You shouldn’t be embarrassed to use a vibrator

The twenty-year-old’s favourite toy had its début on TV. But these are not the days of Sex in the City. Your girlfriends won’t drag you from your “quiet” night in and your new BFF will not be binned. We should be celebrating that a boyfriend isn’t necessary to have a screaming O. And a party-of-one is the best place to start.

Vibrators should be common in every girl’s room. We need to stop being embarrassed about a member we can actually enjoy sober.

How many times have you drunkenly fumbled with someone because uni got a bit stressful? The answer is too many. Start enjoying yourself and stop being so selfless to what a guy wants in bed.

We are allowed to practise self-love. Every bloke does anyway.

For one night the modern woman gets a breather from her life. We indulge in a box of chocolates. We run a bubble bath. We soak. And we can come too. After we shave, moisturise, tan, condition and pour a cheeky glass of wine we can truly enjoy ourselves – without a man messing it up after.

Not that knotted hair, sweaty skin and changing the sheets doesn’t top off a night of pampering. Time after time the guy just rolls over, hits the snooze button and we are left listening to post-coitus snores. And we’re probably unsatisfied and feeling a bit gutted.

It’s much better than diving into a tub of B&J or having to give a BJ.

Do you really want to miss out?

And this is not the desperate call after Valentine’s. Because it’s not just a toy for one. Relationship types understand time with your partner is not love’s only celebration. If you’ve reached that point in your relationship you could even let them join in the fun.

What could bring you two closer than trusting him for your orgasm? And letting him in on your night of wonder. That’s true comfort and you’ll learn more about each other than you would ever think.

Obviously nothing compares to sex, or to a wild one night stand, or to the drunken cowgirl going hay-wire. But there is a pure satisfaction in making yourself come. Just like completing your dissertation without guidance or single-handedly running the perfect bubble bath.

We don’t have to be sexually frustrated anymore and we don’t have to spend time getting to know what the other person likes. Simply because we know what we like. We know ourselves and if you don’t here’s the perfect chance to get to.

University is the time for liberation and trying new things.

I’m not saying let’s burn our bras or have a masturbation meet-up in the name of feminism. But let’s just enjoy ourselves. We don’t have to go around shouting and raving about it “Look at me I got a new dildo”. Why not try a little bullet and just have a nice night in. It’s easier than going manual.