Men, please don’t offer to pay

No we’re not massive feminists like you may be thinking, but we’ve grown up in a world to be a little more independent for ourselves and with this means we don’t want money spent on us by men, we’d rather just pay for ourselves.

We don’t want to feel we owe a man anything. Simple as. When it comes to paying for dates or a night out Destiny’s Child’s Independent Woman is our motto- we either pay for ourselves or would rather split the bill.

we’re perfectly fine paying for ourselves

We’re well aware of the typical dating conventions that men should pay but that traditional view is outdated, especially in this age. It’s hard to come by an act of chivalry and gentlemanly behaviour it seems anyway- there’s nothing more awkward than the bill coming to the table and there’s an immediate expectation that the guy should pay.

When a girl goes out moneyless expecting to get a free night out it looks a bit cheap, unless specified beforehand- why would you assume someone else would pay for you stuffing your face in a fancy restaurant, especially on a first date?

we’ll have our money out before you

We earn our own money so we don’t really need someone else to pay. We’re ok when it comes to taking turns – if you pay once I’ll get the next one – but this dating malarkey, we will always offer to pay our share, as it’s only fair.

We get the sentiment behind it, we really do, but it’s uncomfortable and really unnecessary. We would honestly find it weird if a man continued to pay for us.

It’s kind of demeaning in a way- for a birthday, special occasion or even a one off we may be able to let it slide, but other than that we’d rather pay for our own.