Why masturbation is good for you
Because feeling yourself is the best
Despite there being quite a lot of awareness of it in recent times, I still feel that having a wank is one of those things which is still such a taboo, even at university.
Although it’s true that many people don’t engage in masturbation on principle, which is perfectly valid, I’m talking about how the negative images that society portrays of masturbation can constrain social relations as well as our own self-confidence. The problem lies with those who make others feel guilty, or themselves feel bad for their own sexual self love- something which for me is a really serious issue. It still seems as if it’s only okay for cis-het men to discuss but for everyone else, it’s something that is seen as weird, grim, or awkward to talk about, despite the fact that we’re all pretty aware of that it’s extremely common.
I think that this stereotype desperately needs to be broken, and here are some of the many good reasons why:
It’s good for your health
It’s a well known fact, especially for students, that masturbation/procasturbation is a great release of endorphins helping to decrease stress levels.
It’s almost as good as eating chocolate or exercising apparently- although let’s be honest, feeling yourself beats rowing. There is also a lot of evidence to show that it can help to combat insomnia: just as sex in general can have the effect of making you a bit dozy, so can masturbation- both help to lower your blood pressure and put your body into a very zen like state, making it much easier to get to sleep. Other health benefits include: a reduced risk of prostate cancer, relief from menstrual cramps and body aches as well as having better quality sperm- are there any downsides?
It’s good for your sex life
It might be obvious but I can’t stress enough how much knowing what you like is important in having really good sex! You should never feel you have to fake it, especially if you know what works! It’s much harder to tell someone what feels good for you if you haven’t tried it first on yourself, and I really think that having a sexual experience by yourself, especially prior to sex with another person, is a crucial part in your own sex life. It’s good to take the time to work yourself out before you can work another person’s body out, and just touching yourself in that way is a really intimate and brave thing to do. It’s also a real step towards breaking down the stereotype of sex as being one of vaginal penetration with a penis- as I’ve mentioned before (many a time) sex has a much wider definition, and seeing how you can make your body feel good in different ways is key to understanding what sex is for you.
It’s good for your confidence
Nothing makes you feel more confident than knowing what you want and what you like, and having a wank is no different. It really can make you so much more comfortable in your own skin. Being able to make yourself feel good is so empowering and I think it makes you much more in touch with yourself and how you work as a person, as well as how powerful you are. Up until recently, there was arguably a general consensus that orgasms could only be experienced by cis- male people. Although we know now that this is completely ridiculous, it is still reflected in societal views of what sex is- the focus is still on what makes cis-men feel good, (reflected in the many categories on porn sites aimed at them) ignoring to a large extent everyone else. This is both completely unfair and non-scientific! Everyone can make themselves feel good sexually if they chose to.
The important thing to remember is that masturbation is not only something that is good for your health, as well as your sexual wellbeing, but that is also something which reinforces your sexual validity as a person, and as a person worthy of feeling sexual pleasure. You do you, you sexy thing.