Here’s why I’ve started a sex blog at Bristol University
‘We want to hear your stories’
People aren’t having enough sex. If they are, they aren’t talking about it enough. I mean, I couldn’t publicise my sex life more and I should probably tone it down a bit especially as I am not having as much sex as I make it out to seem and that’s a bit embarrassing.
Coming to university made me realise that we don’t speak about it enough. Not necessarily in a clinical "Are you aware of unwanted pregnancy?" sort of a way but in a dirty, revealing, honest, hilarious way (however, wrap it before you tap it kids).
Sex is probably the most awkward, strange, enjoyable, enticing and confusing thing you will ever do. The best thing about sex is, whoever you have it with, whatever way and for however long, it will never be the same.
Have you ever had the moment when you are having sex and you stop and think genuinely what the fuck am I actually doing right now, this is the strangest impulse I have ever had but fuck it i’m going to do it anyway? That is literally me all the time. I think that sex is weird and also one of the best things in the world.
I realised that there was a gap at Bristol University where sex and sexual health are not currently being spoken about. I also realised that NOT EVERYONE MASTURBATES?!?! So I decided it was time for me to do something about it.
That is when SHAG was created. SHAG (sexual health and growth) is a creative platform for people to anonymously share stories, poems, films and artwork of any kind relating to the theme that month. It is also a place where there is a lot of information about sexual health and contraception but provided in a very laid back, ‘don’t worry you probably have nothing’ kind of way.
The reason I did this was because I realised why people weren’t into sexual health. Our sexual health is scary. It’s gross and we have been taught it by people who are a lot older than us and who actually terrify us. It doesn’t have to be that way though. I wanted to start a conversation about sexual health and contraception with people my age that was funny and chilled out, and it actually worked.
There is also a side to SHAG that talks about everything you would want to know about sex. Faking orgasms, queefing, how to last longer, masturbation tips, the list goes on. You name it, we got it. We also don’t censor on SHAG so, trust me, things can get grim.
Sex can be something to be proud of. I want men and women to both be proud of having sex because, yes my female friend, if you have sex with a boy and never text him back I will high five you and call you a legend.
NONE OF YOU ARE SLUTS.
We learn by trial and error and sometimes porn which can definitely be a bad idea- there is no way a penis that massive is actually going to feel that good. Also- spoiler- no one really looks sexy whilst they are having sex. Her tits are probably fake as well. We also learn from a highly detailed debrief after one of our friends has their virginity taken at a school disco. We need to learn from each other.
So shaggers; male or female, young or old, boarding school knob or roadman from endz we need you. We want to hear your stories, your poetry, your experiences. Sex is not something to be embarrassed about because the more we normalise it the better and safer sex we can have. Also some of your stories are just fucking hilarious.
Right now we are looking for stories on sex in relationships, rants about whatever the hell you want to do with sex and one night stands. Sex brings you closer to people, it’s a human instinct and it also just feels fucking good.
Sometimes, you can just SHAG your way through life. We would definitely recommend it but share it with us first though. And don’t do it if they have an STD. Get that shit checked out.