We asked an expert to dissect *those* Molly-Mae and Tommy statements and it is telling

Ever since Love Island sweethearts Molly-Mae Hague and Tommy Fury announced they had called off their engagement and were ending their relationship, everyone has been talking about *those* statements.

In the classic way with anyone in the public eye, the couple announced the news by sharing Instagram written statements on their stories. Unlike most couples, they opted for separate stories posted a short amount of time apart. For two pretty short posts, they got people *really* talking.

In her statement, Molly-Mae said she “never expected their story would end this way” and added: “I will forever be grateful for the most important thing to me now and always, my beautiful daughter. Without us there would be no her, she will always be my priority.

“I want to thank you all for the love and support you have shown us over the last five years. You have all been part of our journey and it feels right to share this with you all. Whilst I attempt to navigate the coming days and weeks please kindly respect my privacy over this difficult time. I’ll be back when it feels right.”

Tommy reflected what Molly already said, but in a shorter sentiment. He referred to Bambi as “ours” and said he is “heartbroken” by what has happened, and said he will “forever be thankful to Molly for making me a dad.”

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Why did Molly-Mae call their child Bambi “mine” whilst Tommy called her “ours”? Is there some subtle messaging going on here? The Tab spoke to Rachel Rose, a relationship and boundaries coach, who confirmed there is a lot going on between the lines here. She said the two statements are “intriguing” and share a lot in regards to “the underlying reasons for their relationship’s conclusion.”

Tommy instigated the breakup, and ‘lacks emotional depth’

Rachel began by saying she believes the statements show it was Tommy who instigated the split with Molly-Mae, and she is clearly much more emotional over what has happened.

She said: “Molly’s assertion that she ‘didn’t expect it to end’ signals that she was taken by surprise, casting Tommy as the likely instigator of the breakup. While both individuals may attempt to frame the situation as a mutual decision, reality often suggests otherwise. In many relationships, there’s typically one partner who feels the impact of discontent more acutely and ultimately takes the initial steps toward separation.”

Rachel said “Molly’s emotional turmoil is evident in her choice of words” which “contrasts sharply with Tommy’s more detached statement, which lacks the same emotional depth.”

“The duplicative language requesting respect for their privacy further highlights this contrast. While both appear to prioritise their family, Tommy’s statement has an air of obligation. It seems less a heartfelt expression and more of a formal announcement, lacking emotive resonance,” she observed.

‘Tommy may not fully grasp the depth of loss’

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Continuing from this, Rachel called Tommy’s statement “emotionally restrained” ad said he may not yet understand the depth of what has happened.

“Tommy’s emotionally restrained response may reflect a common behavioural pattern among men regarding grief when it comes to separation,” she said. “If indeed he initiated the breakup, it’s plausible that he’s currently in a state of denial about the ramifications of ending such a long-term relationship.

“From a psychological perspective, Tommy may not yet fully grasp the depth of loss he faces, as his neural pathways will not automatically deactivate when it comes to this relationship due to the several years that they have been together and the milestones they have reached as a couple. The disconnection in Tommy’s messages becomes clear when juxtaposed with Molly’s proactive planning for the future, as she discusses ‘navigating the next days and weeks.’

“Her statement implies urgency in addressing practical matters like housing, finances, and childcare, reflecting her immediate need to process and adapt to the impending changes. Although Molly may very likely also be in a state of denial, she is evidently choosing to be more proactive in processing her emotions when and as they come instead of being more avoidant with how she is feeling.”

‘I never expected our story would end… especially not this way’

People have been wondering what Molly meant when she said she didn’t expect their relationship to end “especially not this way”. Rachel believes this suggests she is disappointed in the breakup, and perhaps also the approach Tommy has taken.

“This sentiment echoes a sense of betrayal on some level—perhaps indicating that the message of their separation was delivered in a way that lacked the intimacy she anticipated, possibly through impersonal channels such as text or video,” Rachel said.

What did it mean when Molly called Bambi ‘mine’ whilst Tommy called her ‘ours’?

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Ok, the big question everyone has had is what the difference in how the couple spoke about child Bambi meant. Rachel said: “The differences in how they prioritise their child, Bambi, are telling. Molly emphasises Bambi will ‘always be my priority,’ whereas Tommy refers to her as ‘our priority.’

“This subtle yet significant distinction hints at their possible future co-parenting dynamics. While Tommy may envision a shared commitment, Molly’s words could suggest a desire for a more independent parenting role, potentially leaning toward primary caregiving.

“Lastly, their varying views on privacy during this transition reflect contrasting approaches to boundaries and vulnerability. Molly’s emphasis on privacy for her child hints at a protective instinct, while Tommy’s additional request for respect regarding familial privacy (which is broader and leaves it open for interpretation) may point to external pressures or influences within their wider family that could complicate the breakup further should the public try and intervene by for example,  trying to coax further information from them without Molly’s / Tommy’s consent.”

Finally, some answers!

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