Emma reveals unseen MAFS UK scenes which caused her relationship with Caspar to crumble

And has her own ‘theory’ about what all went wrong

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Emma and Caspar chose to leave MAFS UK last night, and as sad as I was to see them go if was definitely their time. If we’re being honest their relationship got off to a very rocky start at the wedding when Caspar awkwardly compared Emma to his sister.

Things went from bad to worse when Caspar made some less than helpful comments about Emma’s body shape during their honeymoon. And whilst the pair certainly had their moments where they seemed to grow closer the fact they only kissed a handful of times says it all.

But now Emma has revealed her own theory about what exactly went wrong for her and Caspar on MAFS UK, revealing some unseen moments which explain a lot.

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She posted the TikTok at the end of last week, so just before they chose to quit the show. She revealed: “So if you’re confused about mine and Caspar’s blowing hot and cold this week, I think I have a theory, hopefully the experts will see this and be proud of me.

“Caspar and I have never been in relationships, which is quite rare at our age, so we both have a disorganised attachment style, which means we show and exhibit all three of the different attachment styles; anxious, avoidant and secure.”

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She continued: “So if we start off with anxious, that’s obviously our walls being thrown up when one of us says something out of whack, and love-hate week, the hate part was actually before Charlene came round, and you can kind of see how hate week brought up some negative energy.

“We kind of then were anxious, like, ‘what? What’s happening here? Obviously, it’s not going to work. Will it work? I don’t know.'”

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Emma went on: “And then Charlene coming round and me saying, ‘I’m not sure if I can be emotionally vulnerable. I’m not sure if I like you enough like that’, and then Caspar saying, ‘I want to practice this in future relationships’, [our] walls go straight back up.

“The avoidance attachment style Caspar has exhibited with the intimacy piece. So we’ve, you know, we shared a kiss, we’ve shared a melting hug. It kind of puts one of our guards up, and we’re like, no, no, I’m not sure about this.

“As soon as we get to love, because we’re avoidant of love, we exhibit parts of that the secure attachment style is shown in our love languages.”

MAFS UK Emma Caspar

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She added: “You could see me giving love and giving a secure attachment style with the picnic that happened the week before. And like, yes, obviously production set up the picnic, but I knew about that before I’d baked a sourdough for it.

“The intimacy piece, I think a secure, happy relationship has a lot of physical touch and intimacy, and that’s my way of giving love to my friends and in relationships.”

MAFS UK Emma Caspar

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Unlike Emma, Caspar’s love languages are “acts of service” and “gift giving” but these didn’t resonate with Emma. She explained: “Like he’ll cook a dinner, he will help around the household, and his is gift giving.

“So during that week, he’d like, bought me flowers, he had done a little trail around the house of a couple of gifts that he bought me.

“He bought me champagne and strawberries to have at breakfast, and those mixed with the anxious attachment style is a bit like, ‘What you’re doing that for?’ Both from the intimacy piece and the gift giving piece.”

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