Oh no, Mormon Wives’ Jordan just told his side of the story and it’s making things worse
He literally got grilled here
Jordan Ngatikaura hopped onto The Viall Files thinking he was finally going to clear the air… but honestly? It kind of made everything messier.
Instead of smoothing things over, his explanations about what went down with Jessi, how he sees their marriage now, and what the show did to them just sparked more questions.
He insisted he wants to step up, take responsibility, and protect his family. But parts of the interview had listeners raising their eyebrows. And now? Everyone’s dissecting his every word – including Nick Viall.
Mormon Wives’ Jordan went on Viall Files
Oop, as if Jordan went onto Viall Files to pretty much clear his name and take accountability to be absolutely roasted in front of the whole world.
The Mormon Wives star’s marriage was laid bare for everyone to see in season three. That wasn’t enough for Jessi Draper and Jordan by the looks of things, though, as they sat down to hash out where they stand now with Nick Viall.
During the November 26 episode called ‘Going Deeper with Jessi And Jordan’, Nick really does just that.
We got to see the two dig deep into the goings-on between Jessi and Jordan, on and off camera.
Nick said that Jessi “used some pretty direct language in describing Jordan’s treatment” of her.
He asked: “Watching season three back, how eye-opening was it to you in terms of how you’ve treated Jessi throughout your relationship?”
Jordan responded: “Looking back, and watching that back, it was really eye-opening to see that. Obviously, when we are filming, we record hundreds of hours and very, very little makes the cut…”
He added how a lot of “pretty bad scenes” didn’t make the cut relating to his behaviour.
“Through the entirety of filming season two, we were going through all of this, and we were both doing everything we could to keep a lid on it, and I felt like I was dying inside.
“I couldn’t talk to anyone about this because of the risk of it getting out was something I was completely petrified of…”
Jordan said he was “selfishly thinking” at the time, and added: “I think that I was so embarrassed and felt a lot of shame if people knew what my wife had done… and I wasn’t even worried about what I had done to put her in a place where she felt like that was a need.”
Things kinda seem worse now?!
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Nick went on to ask when Jordan had an “a-ha moment, in realising how he treated Jessi.” He said: “Honestly, hearing Jessi speak her truth and share her story and watching this season back, it’s definitely jarring for the audience to see… it seems surprising that you wouldn’t have noticed…”
Jordan replied: “The day that we separated. The whole time I was so hurt and so traumatised by what happened that I couldn’t even see my wife… I couldn’t see her pain… because I was so upset and distraught about what she had done, so it only magnified the issues that we had…”
Nick then asks, again, whether Jordan twigged when it came to the “pain he caused Jessi in the years leading up to this moment,” referring to the time she emotionally cheated with Vanderpump Villa star, Marciano Brunette.
He recalled Jessi saying that Jordan “put her down,” “called her names,” and “spoke to her in an aggressive tone.” Nick asked: “Did you have a realisation of all of those moments of speaking to Jessi this way that she refers to as emotional abuse?”
Jordan said: “Yeah, I think those moments, I felt… just so I’m very specific, what point are you talking about? Are you talking about prior to the affair, after I found out about the affair?”
Nick claps back: “Prior to the affair… at least for me, the hardest part of Jessi’s story… Jessi, you can tell, she’s a woman who wants to take accountability. She is obviously embarrassed of her actions, she’s apologised, obviously, to you, she feels the shame, and no doubt, I’m sure, is worried about what people are going to say when this gets out. But, I felt this empathy for her because, there’s certainly no excuse for what she did, but there are often reasons… it doesn’t justify it…”
He then asks how Jordan feels about “how he failed Jessi as a husband.”
Jordan tells Nick he and Jessi have been “doing lots of therapy for the last, almost a year… at that time it felt like my needs weren’t being met and that the way I would show… I would get pi***d off, and I would control… that was me like ‘hey, I wanna be treated like a partner, and you’re appeasing everyone but me, people pleasing all these other people… that was my excuse back then, it was a cry for help and attention…”
Through therapy, he said he’s learned a lot. Jordan added how the two are trying to work on their relationship for their “beautiful family,” adding: “It’s been really hard.”
Nick asks where speaking to women in a ‘degrading’ way came from
Nick then highlights how he was raised to “speak to women” in a respectful way.
He said: “I had a great role model in my father… I’m very critical of men who speak a certain way to women. And this is tough to hear, and not to pass the blame onto anyone else, but where do you feel like that came from?”
Jordan said: “That’s a great question. I had my first daughter when I was 18 years old, and in Utah, sex is taboo, like something you don’t talk about… I lost my virginity and had my daughter at 18 years old and had a shotgun wedding.”
“Very soon, we realised she wanted to do the whole Mormon route… I just didn’t believe in it… But I wanted to, but I just couldn’t, and we decided not to be together any more. I felt so upset that I let my daughter down,” Jordan continued.
He explained: “I think it created a bit of a feminine wound, honestly. I think it created a wound in the place that was like she wasn’t ok with me not having the same religious beliefs as her… she chose church over me. Since then, I’ve had a lot of trust issues with women. And, I think that’s what made what happened with the affair so much worse, because of those feminine wounds.”
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