The ‘dating for dinner’ TikTok trend, explained

It’s getting to that time of year when the weather is so sweltering, just the thought of turning on the oven and making the house even hotter is unbearable.

But it’s also that time of year when we’re spending money on so many other things (holidays, days out, nights out, fans) so we can’t really justify eating out just because we can’t be bothered to cook.

For some, the solution apparently lies in going on dates with people they aren’t interested in just for a free meal. This is what TikTok users are doing and showing off via the dating for dinner trend.

So, what is the dating for dinner trend?

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Firstly, this isn’t a completely new thing that originated on TikTok. A 2019 study from Psychology Today focuses on a similar trend called “foodie calls”. They define this as “when someone accepts a free meal with zero intention of pursuing any form of a romantic relationship (short or long-term) with the buyer of said meal”.

However, the trend has gained more attention recently for reasons related to rising prices and economic turbulence. The cost of dining out is higher than ever and people, especially Gen Z are desperate.

Cue TikToks of people “dating for dinner,” which they see as a budgeting hack to save money on food. There’s even a running joke that organising multiple date a week is an alternative way of meal prepping.

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Why is this trend so controversial?

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Like all trends, this has caused backlash.

Some commenters are calling the TikTokers out for being anti-feminist, saying “so much for being a strong independent woman”.

Another commenter pointed out how this looks to the person paying, saying: “I sure hope he doesn’t have TikTok.”

Even the 2019 study refers to the foodie calls trend as “romantic deception”.

Although it’s worrying how economic decline and financial difficulties can force women to become more dependent on men, it seems harsh to blame those resorting to the trend because they can’t afford to eat. Especially in a time when young people, including students, have been forced to skip meals as the cost of living increases, you would think more focus would be on the system causing this. Also, who’s to say there won’t be a second date?

However, most reactions have found this relatable, with some comments calling this an example of girl math.

One commenter resonated heavily with the trend, saying: “Ugh in this economy no one listens to me when I say it’s free dinners and free experience I found my crowd of girlies! Also an excuse to dress up? Yes please.”

Another also supported the TikTok trend and said: “It’s like a meal voucher because you are putting in the work. You deserve it queen.” Honestly it’s lowkey surprising so many people are finding dates to go on anyway considering the current dating climate.

Featured image via TikTok