Notts Talk to Tabitha volume four: Make-ups, break-ups, and everything in between

In this week’s edition of Talk to Tabitha, we’re dealing with both love-sick students, and students sick of love.

Something must be in the air. Let’s get into it.

‘My ex got with my best friend’ – Moneypenny

Oh Moneypenny, my sweet sweet Moneypenny.

Honey, that is not your best friend. It’s the first rule of best-friendship: Do not get with your best mate’s ex! It’s really as simple as that.

Now, this situation puts you in a horrible dilemma, and I’m truly sorry that you’re going through it. I hope for your sake that this best friend of yours realises the error they’ve made, and has apologised profusely.

If they haven’t, then they don’t deserve best friend status any longer. It’s a tough realisation, but your best friends ought to have your best interests at heart as well as theirs. This was clearly not the case in this situation.

If they have apologised to you, then weigh up your options carefully. Do you want to place your trust in this person again, after this betrayal? I’d be wary. Protect your peace.

Love,

Tabitha xx

‘My bf broke up with me’ – A Wandering Soul

Hello, Wandering Soul. Thank you for writing in.

There’s never a good time of year to be broken up with, but around this time is definitely one of the worst. Christmas is tough on a freshly single person, but you can get through it!

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Do NOT (I cannot emphasise “not” strongly enough here) keep talking to the boy. Do not get in touch with him. Do not drunkenly call him, telling him you love him and you miss him. No, no, no. Do better for yourself. It’s the hardest thing to do, but do not under any circumstances reach out to the fella. Cutting him out will help you move on.

Do things that you enjoy. Now you don’t have to balance your time between yourself and someone else, you can go a little crazy – within reason, of course. It’s very tempting (and very easy) to go completely off the rails, and maybe that’s what you need, but I’d preach balance. Don’t lose yourself, but go and have some fun.

Allow yourself to feel your feelings. Shutting your emotions out is not how you get over people. Let yourself wallow for a little while, but remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I have faith in you, Wandering Soul. Now go and have some fun (and spend the money you would have spent on him for Christmas, on yourself!)

Love,

Tabitha xx

‘I have such a crush on the [REDACTED] captain and he doesn’t know I exist’ – Tiler

Hi Tiler!

I’ve done you a favour and redacted the team to which you’re referring. You know who you are, so you know this applies to you.

Firstly, let’s be careful. Admiring from afar is mostly harmless, but can quickly turn sour if you become too obsessive…

But it’s 2024, girl. Shoot your shot. The worst answer you’ll get is no. If you have mutual friends, find a situation in which you’ll all get together and then start a conversation.

If you don’t have any mutuals, then a message on socials may be the way to go. There’s nothing wrong with making the first move, but be wary not to come off too keen. You may frighten him away.

I wish you the best of luck,

Tabitha xx

All advice dispensed is to be taken at reader’s discretion. If you have something you are struggling with, please speak to a doctor or a professional. If you are experiencing mental health concerns please speak to someone, or call or text Samaritans on 116 123 at any time.