Erika Jayne’s new man John ‘Shrek’ McPhee opens up about his traumatic childhood
He lived in a brothel at 12 years old
RHOBH star Erika Jayne has a new man in her life, and trust us, he’s already got everyone talking.
Meet John “Shrek” McPhee, the rugged special forces veteran who’s somehow gone from the battlefield to Beverly Hills and straight into Erika’s orbit.
But while the nickname is iconic and the tough-guy energy is strong, there’s a much more emotional side to John that people are only just starting to see.
He’s now opening up about his traumatic childhood, the experiences that shaped him, and the struggles he’s carried for years. And honestly? It’s way deeper than you’d ever expect.
Meet Erika Jayne’s new man, John ‘Shrek’ McPhee
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So, who exactly is the man turning heads on Erika Jayne’s arm? Say hello to John “Shrek” McPhee, the larger-than-life special forces veteran whose nickname is just as legendary as his résumé.
Known for his fearless attitude, intense discipline and straight-talking charm, John is a total contrast to the glitz and glam of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, which somehow makes the pairing even more intriguing.
He’s spent years operating in some of the world’s most dangerous environments, building a reputation as one of the toughest guys in the room, but don’t let the rugged exterior fool you.
Some say there’s a surprisingly soft, loyal and protective side to him that comes out with the people he trusts. And lately, that inner circle clearly includes Erika. From combat boots to couture, John’s new chapter is already giving main-character energy.
John delved into his traumatic childhood
Appearing on The Shawn Ryan Show in September 2024, Erika Jayne’s new boyfriend, John, opened up about his tough childhood.
He said: “I had a dicey childhood…” before explaining that he and his brother had to steal food in order to eat.
John said he was 12 years old when he left home and “did crime to eat until I was older and then I worked.”
He said that his mother was “bitter” after she got divorced and that she often turned to alcohol to cope which took a toll on their relationship.
John stated that he now “doesn’t have any family” as both parents have passed away, but he still has his brother.
Speaking of a wild time during his upbringing, Erika’s partner said that he lived in a brothel for one or two years: “There aren’t a lot of places for a 12-year-old to go.”
When Shawn asked how he ended up living in a brothel, John laughed and said: “These are the people and your neighbours and family in South Chicago… this lady that ran it took care of us… she was the nicest human being I ever met, she was great.”
He had to put himself through school and said that he and his brother thought they “could do better on their own” living away from their mom.
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