Lydia gives heartbreaking update about her divorce from Milton after Love Is Blind
It's been six months since they split
If you thought Lydia and Milton were going to be one of Love Is Blind’s rare “we made it” success stories, same.
But lately, Lydia Vélez González has been speaking with a rawness that feels less like reality TV soundbites and more like a friend finally exhaling.
Between long-distance pressure, behind-the-scenes tension, and the emotional whiplash of ending a marriage, she’s admitted her light felt dim for a while, then, slowly, started to glow again.
What changed, what’s been said publicly, and what does “getting your spark back” look like off-camera? Let’s unpack the timeline and the glow-up on the other side.
Lydia and Milton announced their split
Lydia Vélez González and James “Milton” Johnson IV (Love Is Blind season five’s only couple to actually get married) are officially headed for divorce, news Lydia shared publicly on AD Smith’s podcast What’s the Reality? in June 2025.
In that interview, Lydia framed the breakup as a slow build rather than one explosive moment.
She described ongoing issues around emotional support, communication, and feeling like she was carrying the relationship’s emotional weight.
She also alleged that Milton wouldn’t sign divorce papers unless there was an NDA involved, something she said pushed her to speak “her truth” publicly, per EW.
Milton hasn’t publicly shared his version in the same kind of sit-down format, and outlets reporting the news note that he did not respond to requests for comment at the time.
She lost her spark
This is the part that hit people in the feelings.
Lydia said she could literally sense herself changing.
In a recap of her comments, she put it plainly: “I just started feeling like I was losing my spark.”
In the same stretch of coverage, Lydia also spoke about health challenges, including a fibromyalgia diagnosis in 2024, and claimed she didn’t feel supported in the ways she needed.
Getting the spark back, Lydia-style
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Shifting from heartbreak to a healing era, Lydia wrote about her journey on Instagram.
She’s also been clear that love and grief can coexist, saying she still had love for Milton, while also insisting she couldn’t stay in a dynamic that made her feel dismissed or unwanted.
She wrote: “Falling in love with myself again, truly and fully, hasn’t been easy. Getting my spark back was anything but a straight line. It was a thousand quiet resurrections.
“There was a time this year when I couldn’t recognize the woman in the mirror, the one crying, breaking, shrinking. But as I kept choosing to show up for her, little by little, she began to return.
“This has been the hardest year of my life, and yet it gifted me something priceless. It gave me back my laughter, my softness, my fire. Watching this video and seeing the shift from that moment of raw pain to the woman dancing, smiling and glowing again… I cried. Because for the first time in a long time, I recognize her. I finally recognize me.
“And recognizing myself again doesn’t mean I don’t have bad days. I do. They still come. But learning to hug my pain in those moments, to sit with it and understand it as a necessary part of becoming the wiser, deeper version of myself, has been crucial to this transformation.
“I have learned how to hold my sadness with compassion, how to embrace the parts of myself I once hid, how to understand the purpose behind every ache. I no longer look for validation in anyone else’s eyes. My reflection, my truth, my heart are the only confirmations I need now.
“I am completely myself again. And I will protect and nurture this version of me for the rest of my life. If you are going through your own unraveling, please don’t give up. Your spark isn’t gone. It is waiting for you to come home to yourself.”
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