From Layla to Mikayla, here’s how old the Secret Lives of Mormon Wives cast members are
These guys are spanning decades
If you have ever tried to work out who is actually the youngest MomTok girl, who secretly has the oldest husband, and who is closer in age to their ex than their current partner, you are not alone.
The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives timeline is wild enough, but throw in three seasons of babies, divorces, Dancing With The Stars and now The Bachelorette, and it gets confusing fast.
So here is a handy breakdown of how old each woman is right now, plus how their ages stack up next to their husbands and exes, as of 2025.
Layla Taylor and ex-husband Clayton Wessel
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Layla really is the baby of the group. She was born in March 2001, which makes her 24 in 2025, per Famous Birthdays.
She married her ex, Clayton Wessel, as a teenager and had both of her boys by 21, before the relationship broke down and the show picked up her life as a single mum.
Clayton is 29, giving them about a five-year gap during their marriage.
Mikayla Matthews and husband Jace Terry
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Mikayla is one of the newer wives that people have fallen in love with, and she sits right in the middle of the age pack. She’s 25 years old and celebrates her birthday on March 17.
Her husband, Jace, who turns up whenever the show needs a golden retriever energy dad, is 30. That five-year gap is very on brand for Utah Mormon culture, but on camera, they mostly come across as young parents completely buried in four kids and house projects.
Jen and Zac Affleck
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Dancing With The Stars contender and self-confessed type A girl, Jen Affleck, is in her mid-twenties.
The Mormon Wives season three is 26, and celebrates her birthday on May 29.
Her med student husband Zac is a couple of years older, at 28.
The show loves to play up the “baby married into a big Utah family” angle, but in real life, they are just a fairly standard late twenties couple who happened to add a third baby and a ballroom schedule into the mix.
Miranda McWhorter and ex-husband Chase
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Then, there is Miranda, the season three addition, who already feels central.
She is 27 years old and divorced from her ex-husband, Chase McWhorter, who is reportedly 29, giving them a two-year gap when they were together, per StyleCaster.
Miranda now co-parents and dates as a late twenty-something single mum, which brings a very different flavour of Mormon wife energy to the group.
Mayci and Jacob Neeley
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Businesswoman and memoir author Mayci Neeley was born on 23 February 1995, so she is 30.
Her husband, Jacob, is the same age.
They read like a very classic late twenties turned early thirties Utah couple, juggling three kids and IVF while also being low-key DadTok and MomTok royalty.
Demi and Bret Engemann
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Demi Engemann is one of the older core women, but still firmly millennial. She’s 30 in 2025.
Her husband, Bret, however, is where things get spicy. He is a former BYU and NFL Europe quarterback, and football records list his birth date as 7 December 1977, making him 47.
That puts roughly a 17-year age gap between them.
Taylor Frankie Paul and ex-boyfriend Dakota Mortensen
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Taylor has lived about five lives before 32. She was born on 23 May 1994, so she is 31 now.
Her ex-boyfriend Dakota Mortensen, who she shares baby Ever True with, is 32, born 27 January 1993.
The two are close in age, which makes their very dramatic on-off dynamic feel even more like watching two messy college exes who never quite managed to grow out of each other.
Whitney and Conner Leavitt
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Whitney Leavitt, who went from “MomTok villain” to Dancing With The Stars contestant, was born on 12 May 1993, making her 32.
Her husband Conner is just under a year younger. Famous Birthdays lists his birthday as 7 December 1993, so he is 31, and The Independent notes that Whitney, 32, and Conner have been married since 2016.
Their age gap is tiny compared to some of the other couples, which is kind of ironic given how much scrutiny their marriage has had on screen.
Jessi and Jordan Ngatikaura
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Jessi, the JZ Styles queen, is one of the oldest women on the show.
She was born on May 25, 1992, so she is 33 in 2025.
Her husband Jordan, the unofficial DadTok ringleader, is 31.
Their two-year gap feels small compared to the emotional gulf season three shows between them, which is probably why their story hits so hard.
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