Aubrey O’Day speaks out on whether she forgives Diddy for what he allegedly did to her
'I want to see systematic change'
Aubrey O’Day has long been outspoken about her experiences in the music industry, but her most recent comments have drawn renewed and serious attention.
Since Netflix’s new docuseries Sean Combs: The Reckoning premiered in early December, the former Danity Kane singer has been speaking publicly about deeply personal and complex experiences connected to Sean “Diddy” Combs.
Aubrey offers further context to allegations and reflections that have resurfaced in the wake of the documentary.
Aubrey addresses what Diddy allegedly did
During a CBS Mornings interview, Aubrey is asked directly whether she believes Diddy sexually assaulted her.
She didn’t give a simple yes-or-no answer. Aubrey explains how she’s been trying to process a disturbing claim that surfaced via an affidavit.
According to the Making the Band star, she was contacted with information from an unnamed witness who said, with “100 per cent certainty,” that it was her they saw Diddy sexually assaulting, and that she had passed out while “things were being done” to her.
Aubrey confirms she does not have clear recollection of the incident. And that’s a huge part of why this has been so psychologically painful. She’s trying to reconcile someone else’s certainty with her own blank spot.
To this day, she said she “doesn’t know” what happened.
She describes going into full due diligence mode, reading through civil suits she could access, looking for patterns, and even reaching out to her former bandmates because the affidavit included details she wanted to fact-check against her own timeline.
In her words, she ultimately landed on this: the witness is also a victim.
She explained how they’re represented by a major attorney, and would be risking their own case by lying, which is why Aubrey says she doesn’t think the story was fabricated, even though she still can’t personally “remember.”
Aubrey also talks about the long shadow she feels Diddy cast over her life and career, including being “back in a group that he created.”
She added how trauma, especially when it’s not actively treated, can sit inside you for decades and keep resurfacing.
She speaks out on forgiveness
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When asked if she forgives Diddy, Aubrey’s answer is… honestly, kind of profound. She says the first forgiveness wasn’t about him, it was about forgiving herself.
She explains that if you grow up without healthy love or approval, you can end up mistaking attention, control, or even abuse for love.
Aubrey explained how it was hard to forgive herself: “That was the hard one. Because when you don’t grow up getting approval, or you’re not loved properly in your childhood, you’re ripe for the picking, especially if you’ve had hard parents.
“There were a lot of things that I received as: this is a person that’s a family member, that cares for me. He’s treating me this way or doing these things because he’s trying to… I believed that was love, what love looked like, because I didn’t experience love in my childhood.
“But the feelings that I’ve had throughout all of this really come down to forgiving myself for misplacing abuse, attention, or acknowledgement as love.
“For confusing those things. For confusing passion and this big energy that Diddy had for everything, for the talent that we had, or that I had, with somebody who would protect it.”
As for Diddy? She essentially shrugs off the “Do you forgive him?” question as not the main event. Her take is that he needs to do the work.
She thinks he needs to step away from the persona, acknowledge what he’s done, and face the “collateral damage” she says has stretched across decades.
Aubrey also says this isn’t just about one famous man, it’s about an industry ecosystem. She calls for public conversations about trafficking, exploitation, and how young women are treated, plus real accountability and education for younger generations.
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