According to a psychic, we’re cheated on in order to ‘pay a karmic debt’

This week Broadly published an article, for which they went to a psychic who told them that when we’re cheated on, it’s to “pay a karmic debt.”

According to the article, the psychic said, “If one person is cheating in a relationship, there’s a chance that the person being cheated on in this lifetime may have cheated in a past life.” So what she means is, when someone cheats on you, there’s a good shot it’s because you’ve done something wrong, even if — get this — you have no memory of it, because it was in an alternate life.

I can’t be the only one thinking it’s starting to feel like we can’t get anything right.

But this article isn’t about Broadly. It’s about debunking the myth that people are cheated on for any reason other than that their exes are flaming garbage.

If someone is cheating on you, it is not because you’ve done something wrong – in fact you’re never the one to blame. The reason they’re cheating is not because you’re not good enough, or pretty enough – it’s because they’re uncomfortable or unhappy in their own skin, and you deserve so much better than that. The idea that someone is cheating on you because you for some reason deserve it, perpetuates the idea that victim blaming is ever okay.

I’ve heard all of the arguments for cheating: you’re unhappy in a relationship so you deserve to do it, you just “don’t love them anymore”, you think they might be cheating on you, and so on. And all I can think is, “So you’re scared to say it to our face.”

Nobody should ever be allowed to waste somebody else’s time, and that’s particularly so if they can’t even look the person they’re dating in the eye and tell them they don’t love them, or ask if they are in fact cheating.

Using your partner’s past — or even an alternate past — as an excuse to cheat is the lowest. Cheating is the most cowardly thing a person can do, second to placing the blame for cheating on the victim. If you cheat on someone, it’s because something in your own life is not aligned — you do not get to reprimand someone else for the way you are feeling.