Heads-up: Lena Dunham makes a good point, says a valid thing you should heed

I know you mean well! Seriously, I get that it's supposed to be a compliment and that your delivery with a knowing smile and an index finger lip-tap means you're just being sweet. But I think — lots of people think, actually — that commenting on other people's weight loss is maybe not a great-n-fun thing to do.

Ask Lena Dunham! She's getting it bad these days. It's almost like people have run out of things to roast her for. Or something.

Lena lost weight, yes. She looks slimmer than a few months ago. It's an objective fact, not part of the skinny-good, fat-bad two-legs/four-legs binary we've all entrenched ourselves in. She's been pretty vocal about the plain fact that her weight-loss is the result of myriad mental and physical health concerns, so her dropping some lbs is less of a "Oh my god girl YES!" and more of an "Are you OK?"

We're so programmed to think that every woman wants to slim down that any weight-loss is some hard fought victory to be celebrated.

A shitty supermarket tabloid slapped a pap shot of Lena Dunham on their cover with a line about her weight, making it seem like the little behind-the-well snippet contained all the svelte-by-summer secrets a girl could need. Lena was more than happy to share her actual "tips" via Instagram, though:

All of those things sounds — surprisingly — unfun. So imagine you've got all of this shit going on, like a constant lil pit of fire in our gut, and someone sidles up and starts a stream of "Yas, Gaga, you look so good!" If things had gone the other way and anxiety had resulted in a weight gain (tag yourself, I'm the weight gain), it'd be a cause for hushed concern.

Weight is such a fickle little fuck, and you know what really gets the scale moving down? Illness. Remember when Cosmo ran that tone-deaf social media plug that made cancer seem like the greatest diet trick? I know I remember watching someone compliment a girl in line at Target up and down for her physique only to reply with a flat "I have Chron's Disease and a literal colostomy bag."

So maybe we just, I dunno, stop commenting on the weight fluctuations of others? Seems like a great way to avoid social embarrassment at Target and also everywhere else.