We asked a six-year-old about boys and dating

My six year old sister Isabella is easily the most opinionated person I know.

Loudness, opinion, and sass in hand, she answered some of my questions about dating and let me know that 20, is in fact, too young to date, but not too young to marry.

How do you know if someone likes you?

They will tell you.

If a boy is mean to you does that mean they like you?

No. It means they’re mean.

If you like someone  would you tell or show them?

I would show them! I would get them flowers…but I think they’re about 9 dollars. I don’t have that many dollars. I have around 8 dollars…

How old should you be when you start dating?

Um, 20.

So I can’t date yet?

No! *pauses for a second* are you going to marry your jar of Nutella?

(Yes.)

How many dates do you have to go on before you kiss somebody?

3 or 4

Before you say I love you?

About 10. Because that’s how you get used to them and they have to get used to you.

Age to get married?

Um…9…No…20.

What about marrying at 30?

No! You don’t want to be a grandma when you get married! 30 is too old! 30 is when you become a grandma.

So you should date and get married at 20?

Yes.

Would you let your brother date your friend?

NO! He’d be too young!

What if you’re 20 and he’s 18?

No! He shouldn’t! All he does is stare at the TV, look at him.

Santi (our brother, 4): You should be 5 when you get married and I will get married to someone fancy. Wait how many times can you get married?

Me: A few, I guess

Santi: Then I will marry you and then someone else and then you again.

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One of my favorite things about her responses is her immunity to the outdated trope, “boys are only mean to you because they like you”. She also seemed to understand that it takes a while to get used to people, especially those who you have a romantic relationship with.

My sister is basically the best. Except when she said I would marry Nutella. Even if it may be true…