How to deal with your ex over winter break
Coming home to see an ex, significant other, significant other on a break, or any other kind of relationship? I’ve got you covered.
As many of my friends and I have learned, there is rarely a black and white, clear-cut formula for college long-distance relationships. There are break-ups, 100% exclusive, breaks, ‘breaks,’ but you still talk to them everyday, and more. Regardless, of the term or situation, you will be in the same city with them in a short time, so here’s some of my best advice.
Broken Up
People break up for college for a multitude of reasons, and not just because ‘it’s too hard.’ It may or may not be tempting to go see them over break, but unless it is 100% platonic, it probably isn’t a good idea. If you are completely broken up, then this shouldn’t change just because you’re closer. Stay strong!
Nonexclusive
This is a more vague kind of break with a few different meanings. If you…
A- Don’t talk and only talk back home:
It’s part of your relationship, so you should feel comfortable seeing them over break; however, try to keep in mind your relationship status, as things can seem too good to be true at home.
B- Talk most days as friends and ready to see each other over break:
Enjoy your time together, and think about what you really want from this relationship. If you still talk most days, what’s holding you back from putting a label on it?
Exclusive
How to act like the last four months hasn’t at all taken any toll on your long-distance relationship? Don’t. Chances are, if you decided to stay completely exclusive in college, you probably have a pretty strong relationship, so it is worthwhile to talk about what’s happened and how you can make things better or if you need a change.
Same School
If you just happen to go to the same school as your significant other, then seeing them in the same space won’t be too weird at all. My advice? Spend as much time as possible with other people you don’t get to spend time with. Obviously cute holiday things with your bf/gf is perfectly acceptable and more than encouraged.
School Relationship–> Long Distance
So you met someone in college and now won’t see them for a month. Yes, it will be weird, but (depending on how long you have been dating), you probably haven’t spent a ton of time apart, so this distance can be good for some perspective.
From one person in a long distance relationship to another, I know how complicated it is (especially during the holidays when family members ask you about it 24/7). Hopefully, this gives you some new thought and perspective on your relationship over break. Best of luck!