How you can tell when you’re the good girl of the friend group

People underestimate the power of the good girl. They think we get pushed around and we’re quiet, but as the proclaimed good girl of my group, I can promise you it is just the opposite.

The “good girl” perks are probably the best of any other role in the friend group. I’m more involved with my friends than some may even know. In some ways, what is a squad without me? I promise you in the eyes of the good girl, the title is more of a compliment than an insult.

I’m thankful I am fooling people into thinking I have my life together.

My friends tell me all the time I’m on the “right path,” but really I am just as frazzled and confused as the next person. I am honored through all of my anxiety and missed showers, people think I am going places in life. I am flattered when someone asks for my help or looks to me for inspiration because that means I must be successfully tricking you into thinking I am pulling off being an adult.

Most of the time I honestly don’t know what I’m doing

Parents and teachers tend to love me.

Pretty soon after starting college you start to realize how essential it is to be on good terms with every person you have ever met. It seems as if my good girl vibes are just radiating off my body and, thankfully, parents and teachers seem to really pick up on it. I pride my self on how easy it is to befriend those of the older generation. With our new found friendship, I can ask for a good letter of recommendation or a start using their connections to make more connections. They some times even willingly give you a loan because they know it is going to the right places. It always pays to have an older and wiser ally.

I like to think of myself as the glue.

When the squad starts to lose its bond, it seems as if everyone looks to me for salvation. I often act as the liaison between conflicting squad members and see myself as almost a cheerleader for us as a whole. I’m always there to remind everyone of the good times and remember why we became a squad in the first place. If it weren’t for me, some pretty solid group chats would not still be around today. You’re welcome.

I know all my friends secrets.

There’s a weird stereotype that the good girl is synonymous with being the quiet girl, and I’m here to debunk that rumor. I love a good real life soap opera just as much as the next girl and being the good girl has really given me a behind-the-scenes look at everything.

The only difference between me and our other squad members is you know I will actually keep your secret. Because of my excellent secret keeping ability I’ve gained all of their trust, therefore making me the most in-the-know person in our group. Score one for the good girl!

Even when they don’t tell me things, they always know I know.

Sometimes my friends like to hide things from me because they think I won’t approve or they think I’ll judge them for their actions. You might think I’ll never find out about your crazy late night shenanigans or that I might not know about the boy from Tinder, but I know you know I know by those looks we keep exchanging during lunch. You might be ashamed of what you did or the mess you got yourself into, but you know I’ll love you even when the full truth comes out. You might as well tell me now because you know I already have a solution ready.

People are shocked when I let loose a little.

Good girls like to have their fun too, and I have to say the look I get from my friends faces when I suggest a wild and crazy activity ranks higher than the activity itself. Contrary to popular belief, good girls don’t just stay in all the time and go to church on Sunday. You can find us doing a lot of the same things you’re doing, the only difference is we know how to get everyone out safely if and when things go awry.

Let’s face it. We like the comfort of our own bed at the end of the night and I know how to get us there. The good girl always one hand on the steering wheel and the other in the air.

I know you’ll thank me one day.

At the end of the day, you know I’m a vital member of our group. You thanked me when I told you that last shot was enough, and you’ll thank me in the future for forcing you to stay home and study. The point is, squad can’t thrive without me and that’s all the satisfaction I need. Beyond all the jokes and silly comments, I know you need me, but don’t worry because every good girls need her crazy friends.