Love Is Blind villain reveals her Mormon family ‘disowned’ her after going on the show
'They're embarrassed'
Kacie McIntosh didn’t walk into Love Is Blind expecting a fairy-tale edit, but even she seems shocked by how heavy the fallout has been.
Yes, she’s the season nine cast member people seemingly love to side-eye, but behind the ‘villain’ chatter is a woman saying she’s been quietly grieving something way bigger than pod drama, her relationship with her family.
Speaking to Selling the OC‘s Alex Hall, Kacie opened up about growing up Mormon, feeling shunned, and why the internet pile-on hits differently when the people who are supposed to love you most won’t even ask how you’re doing.
Kacie reveals her family ‘disowned’ her
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If you’ve been keeping up with the post-season interviews, you’ll know Kacie has been on a bit of a “let me tell my side” tour, and honestly, it’s giving human being, not villain.
On the show, Kacie got engaged to Patrick Suzuki in the pods, only for their relationship to implode almost immediately once cameras moved into the real world.
But in the conversation that’s now making headlines, Kacie shifts the focus away from Patrick and onto her upbringing.
She says she grew up Mormon and that her family is now essentially not in her life, especially her mom, who she describes as deeply anti-Netflix-fame and unwilling to engage with anything connected to the show.
On Pretty Dirty with Alex Hall, Kacie talks about her mom not asking questions when she travels, hating public attention, and the relationship feeling like a wall she can’t climb.
This also isn’t the first time she’s linked her family dynamics to her experience on the show. In another interview, Kacie acknowledged her Mormon background and the discomfort her family has with how she came across on-screen, per Vulture.
And in coverage of her podcast comments, she’s quoted describing her family as basically “done” with her, a stark way of explaining what she feels is “shunning.”
Why she thinks her family ‘shunned’ her
So what actually pushed things to the breaking point? According to Kacie, a lot of it comes down to religion, shame, and one very infamous “sex day” moment on Love Is Blind.
She explained that her Mormon upbringing made the show’s more candid conversations feel especially explosive back home.
Kacie claims her family was horrified when Netflix aired her openly talking about sex, something producers had apparently suggested would not make it into the final cut. When it did? She says that was it. The reaction wasn’t concern or curiosity, but embarrassment. For Kacie, that hurt more than the internet dragging her.
She’s been open about feeling “scarred from the church” and says the response from her family felt less like disappointment and more like outright shunning, a dynamic many former members of strict religious communities quietly recognise.
What people at home saw as messy reality TV, her family reportedly saw as a moral failure, and one they didn’t want to be associated with.
She said it wasn’t worth going on Love Is Blind
Here’s the complicated part… Kacie doesn’t exactly say she fully regrets doing Love Is Blind.
She’s clear that the experience has brought some positives, and she doesn’t want to erase that. But she also paints a pretty bleak picture of what it’s like when the cost of your “big TV gamble” is your peace and your family.
Speaking to Alex, Kacie says she had a good life before the Netflix show.
She mentions business, travel, close friends, and having a relatively quiet time. Now? She’s dealing with public judgment, nonstop commentary, and the particular kind of heartbreak that comes from feeling like your own family is embarrassed by you.
That’s the part she struggles to make “worth it.”
And zooming out, you can see why the backlash got loud: the Patrick breakup scene was uncomfortable. Even Kacie has admitted she was overwhelmed, conflicted, and not fully honest in the moment about her lack of attraction, which contributed to the mess.
She said she “really wanted to find love” on Love Is Blind, adding: “It’s hard to relive it almost two years later, over and over again.”
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