You shouldn’t feel single shamed on Valentine’s Day

Another Valentine’s day… another day of feeling lonely, hopeless and #foreveralone?

HELL TO THE NO.

Valentine’s day is all about love. Yes I know the big scary “L” word envelops the entire world for the day… the horror. I know how you’re feeling because believe me I’ve been there. Loneliness, worry, anger, and resentment all set in as couples frolic around receiving and giving love without you. But are you really missing out?

treat yo’self

As I was walking down Commonwealth Avenue on the way to class just to hear my peers speak about their big plans for the V-day, I passed the florist and smelled the roses (I mean literally people, these flowers smelled awesome). I stopped at the florist, walked inside, and thought a bunch about the big day and realized we’re all ignoring such an important part about love.

Self-love. Self-love is the primary step you must take before loving someone else. People everyday throw the word around as if it’s just an inherent part of human nature, but what does “self-love” mean. Self-love is vital to living a self-sufficient and fulfilling life. You have to reward yourself for how amazing you are from day to day. By doing nothing for Valentine’s Day you’re telling yourself that you don’t deserve love, and that is bullshit my friends. You deserve the world, and you deserve to give it to yourself.

Valentine’s Day is too much of a resented holiday. It is possible for love to be in the air for everybody. I’m a bit confused and frustrated how society turned this holiday into such an exclusive one. If you’re a couple you get the “privilege” of celebrating it but if you’re single you’re forced to be miserable and resent the people who are in relationships? That is counter productive.

If the holiday revolves around love then it absolutely should not cause people to hate love altogether. By taking a step back from all the decorations and gifts made for “couples only” , it is easier to see the big picture. Love is love. No I’m not talking about love between genders, yes that is all love, but by love is love, I mean love within yourself.

Appreciate who you are because in the end how you view yourself is more important to a life of happiness than how somebody else views you. And if self-love to you means going on a hot date with Ben and Jerry this weekend, then treat yo self. Those men have our backs through it all anyways.

Galentine’s is the new Valentine’s