Leaving a toxic friendship is the best thing for you
Rid yourself of the negativity and make room for positivity
We’ve all had that one friend who you were warned about. The friend that you eventually find you’re always reaching out to, making this ‘friendship’ become one sided. You spend time alone because you are constantly being blown off by this friend. But then you realize the one ting you had hoped wasn’t true for years… This friendship has gone toxic and you need to get out of it.
In my situation, this was someone I knew for years and never in a million years thought I would ever end up being someone that got shit talked by them. Sure, there were plenty of signs, like missing my birthday and only hitting me up when their significant other was out of town. But once I came face to face with the awful things that had been said about me by this person, it was time to go.
Do you and only you
This may seem like it would come naturally, but it can be tricky. Only worry about yourself and how to be the best person you can be. The toxic friend obviously was doing you more harm than good so it’s time to put your needs above anybody else’s for once.
Don’t apologize
There’s a good chance the toxic friend will ask you where it went wrong or what the friendship is no more. Never apologize for getting out of the friendship because you’ll just sucked back in and feel brainwashed. There’s nothing you could have done to make the friendship better. You’d been trying for way too long while they were out there tearing you down.
You’ll be so much happier
The people you surround yourself with really do have an effect on how you carry yourself, ridding yourself of that negative person will be the best thing to happen to you”. Once you realize you deserve someone who appreciates and values your friendship, you’ll never allow yourself to be around any other people.
Friends are supposed to hold you up and support you, not tell you that you’ll “never make it” or that you should “just give up now.” You can only kill them with kindness for so long before it takes a toll on the once happy person you used to be.
Expand your friend group and your soul will flourish
Get to become friends with people who have similar interests besides going to the same high school. People that truly care about you will show it in so many different ways that you’ll wonder how you ever got by without people like that. You’ll realize so much about what you were missing with that toxic friend that it’ll make your head spin. Good people exist, you just have to get rid of the awful ones in your life first.
Appreciate the good people in your life
Toxic friendships teach you a lot, though. They teach you that you deserve better and that helps with moving forward. You notice you are genuinely happy without them instead of dreading what they’re going to say about you behind your back. You start to appreciate the amazing people that are in your life that you can count on for anything.
Cut off the toxin
This is harder than it seems, especially when there’s plenty of mutual friends that you both have. You don’t have to be mean, but just distance yourself. Kind of ghost them, but in a friendship sense. Unfollow them on social media. You were sick of seeing their posts by this point anyways. If you feel the need, go ahead and delete their phone number while you’re at it. It’ll be hard but you’re better off.
Enjoy life without them
You don’t have to sit and wonder if you’ve pissed them off by ending the friendship. They never thought about your feelings when they were shit talking you for years. Be happy! Go out and have experiences with people who make you a better person. You’d be surprised by how much of a difference this makes. Suddenly you’re smiling all the time and finding yourself in great company. Enjoy the company you now keep and cherish every little moment, even it seems like it’s nothing. These moments will become the best memories and you’ll want to hold on to them.