We asked people in long distance relationships how they cope

Thank God for Skype


Long distance relationships are hard. You’re told the only way to enjoy uni is to be single – let alone committed to someone living hundreds of miles away. But to many students, being with the person they love is worth it, no matter the distance. We decided to ask around and see just how some people in LDRs cope.

Cheryl Sze, First year, Education Studies

Like many other things, it does come with its pros and cons. We talk at least once everyday; whether it’s on the phone or Skype and I can’t emphasise how much of a difference this makes. We might not have things to talk about but it’s the act of hearing the other person’s voice, which makes it a little more bearable. I do believe it’s normal to have had thoughts about giving up but thinking about the times when we’re together completely changes my mind.

Aurianne Dottin-Wilson, First year, PAIS & Hispanic Studies

I find it difficult sometimes – there are those moments when I’m lonely, bored or stressed out and I just want a cuddle from my significant other. We talk a lot on the phone and visit each other when we can. It is hard but it’s definitely worth it for the person that you love. You get an amazing feeling when you see that person for the first time in ages!

Joe Morley, First year, International Management

It’s certainly difficult, but it’s worth it. I think if you set time aside to speak to each other, it’s absolutely fine. You should arrange trips every fortnight or every three weeks. Obviously you’ve got the holidays as well which are good to spend time properly with each other. Apart from that, drop them a morning text just to let them know you’re still alive.

Sebastian Kelly, First year, Physics

The main way I cope is through consistent contact, so we talk every evening on the phone or using Skype. We also see each other every two weeks, alternating between each others unis and homes. When we do see each other, we both talk very openly about how we feel and try not to ever go to bed angry.

Jacqueline Eckert, Second year, History and Politics

Well, we talk a lot on Skype. Especially during the months when either one of us is busy, we Skype a lot rather than visit each other because we need to focus on work. We always spend time together during the holidays, though. I don’t think it’s difficult to “cope” in a long distance relationship, because you’re able to develop on your own. You don’t have to be surrounded by the other person all the time to be happy with them.

Grace Deavall, First year, English and Theatre Studies

Since my boyfriend doesn’t really like texting 24/7, we arrange to Skype twice a week so we can catch up. He works nights, so we try to talk Monday mornings and Fridays, but sometimes we alternate. Basically, the key is to be flexible; you can’t stick to a routine or else you start to overthink things if the routine goes wrong. You can’t be too clingy with someone.

Beth Longman, First year, English Literature and Creative Writing

Skyping a lot and calling each other is really important. I think it’s important to develop trust so that you know even if you don’t see each other, you’re still going to be in a strong relationship.