Miss XXXeter: To bloz or not to bloz?

Foreplay is an essential part of our sex lives. We love to build up the tension and anticipation so that, when we finally get down to the dirty business, it heightens all your nerves and sensations.

But, for us girls, having someone’s hard manhood thrust towards your face can be a scary situation. As women, together we need to be able to be able to suck it up and swallow our fears.

See, we should treat blow jobs like an art and men should treat them like presents: carefully crafted, soft, sensual and erotic.

Remember that, boys: blowjobs are like presents.

It is an art form that requires attention to detail – the balls, for example. It is a part of the body many women forget, and yet we wouldn’t expect a man to forget our clit? A blow job without the balls is like a painting without colour.

The second thing to remember is to play games with him. Switch between slow and fast; between playing with just the tip and deep-throating. By keeping him in suspense about where you’re going and what’s coming, he’ll soon be in the palm of your hand.

If you’re feeling brave, make eye-contact. Giving a guy a sexy look over the top of his cock will really eroticise the moment. Even better, give him noises of satisfaction. He wants to know you’re enjoying yourself, and he wants to help you enjoy yourself too, so don’t push aside his attempts to stroke your hair or body. After all, he can’t take something for nothing right?

Enjoying foreplay is essential to having the optimum sexual experience. It’s a well-known fact among sex experts that shagging is at its best when both partners are at the pinnacle of their sexual desire and excitement.

So, why aren’t we doing enough of it? Have we become selfish in our sexual needs, or is it the liberal fashion of sex which is preventing guys from getting that crucial BJ?

Some girls say they find it degrading or dirty – or even find it intimidating. Others, meanwhile, may have never experienced oral sex themselves and aren’t willing to give out some TLC without receiving a little in return.

I suggest keep yourself healthy. If a girl has a bad experience she isn’t going to be easy to win over, so make sure you aren’t that guy. But the most important thing to remember is get between her legs first. Once you start the proceedings, she is likely to return the favour.