Boys tell us 12 blow job tips so you can give a sensational BJ

Don’t forget the balls


Most girls think they can give a good blow job. Their boyfriend, bit on the side or one night stand will tell them so mid-BJ. Every time.

But what if your blow job technique could be even better?

There’s a lot to think about when sucking on a dick – like the speed, where to put your hands, whether you really need to have his penis in that deep, and how much tongue action is necessary. And that’s all before you decide if you want to spit or swallow.

We’ve already provided a handy guide on what to do with a guy’s balls and the what guys want girls to stop doing during sex, but now we’ve asked boys for their best BJ tips.

These are 12 of the best blow job tips, so you can provide a 10/10 BJ:

Give a handjob at the same time

“People who don’t use hands at the same time are basically committing a war crime”, Josh told The Tab.

Use your hand to give him a handjob whilst giving him a blow job. Keep licking and sucking the top and the tip, whilst wanking the lower part of his dick. He’ll love it.

‘No amount of spit is too much’

When giving him a blow job it’s important to get his dick wet with your saliva. It’s essentially natural lube and will feel great for him. Don’t worry if you think there’s too much saliva build up in your mouth when giving a BJ – it will feel awesome for him.

Eye contact

Eye contact can feel sexy, but use it sparingly. If you stare deep into his eyes the whole time your sucking him off, things could end up feeling a bit weird – unless that’s what he’s really into. Instead, glance up every now and again – it’s also satisfying for you to see how much he’s enjoying it.

It’s fine not to swallow, but warn in advance

It’s a universal fact swallowing cum is not a nice experience. It doesn’t matter if he’s eaten pineapple and mango all day, cum is cum. If you want to swallow – it’s completely up to you. Boys told The Tab one of the main blow job tips is that it’s useful for a girl to let a guy know she doesn’t want to, so he doesn’t blow his load accidentally, or on your face/body as you pull out mid-ejaculation.

Take your time – it’s not a race

There’s nothing worse than a guy who eats you out for all of three minutes, rapidly licking away like a dog and jabbing you with his fingers (please see how to eat a girl out here). It’s the same for guys – blowjobs aren’t a race and shouldn’t feel like a box ticking exercise to having sex. Take your time with it. Enjoy it!!

Don’t forget the balls (one of the most important blow job tips)

The balls have been defined as “very important” when it comes to giving a blow job. You can read our full what to do with his balls guide here, but the main pointers are the balls should be played with during head. You can either use one hand to gently fondle his balls whilst sucking him off, or to give your mouth a break you can start licking or sucking on his balls whilst using your other hand to give him a hand job. Get creative. He won’t expect it and will definitely love it.

Build up the anticipation

Take your time going down there. Kiss his neck, down his chest all the way to his penis. Kiss around his dick, touch his balls, do one big lick up his cock – anything other than giving him a blow job. Build up the anticipation until he’s practically begging for it.

No teeth

Obviously. Do not use your teeth. It will hurt.

The top and the tip are the most sensitive

The tip of the penis the most sensitive, so take your time licking and sucking this part.

Deep-throating is just in porn, so don’t feeling like you need to swallow his dick

The most sensitive part of the penis is at the top, so the only thing a guy is getting out of you deep-throating him is his porn fantasy coming true.

Use lube if you wanna get it more slippery

Lube can help getting him more wet. Flavoured lube like cherry will mean it tastes good for you too.

Finger in the bum

Not all guys are into butt play, but a lot are. If your guy is into having a finger in his bum, doing this whilst giving him a blowjob will feel sensational. When fingering his ass, use lube, and go about two inches in until you feel a round bulb – that’s his prostate (or the male g-spot). By doing a come here motion, you’ll stimulate it. If it’s all too technical, just putting a small amount of finger in will get him excited.

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