The pair connected quickly in the pods, and discovered they\u2019d been living parallel lives in San Diego without ever meeting. She was running a hard kombucha brewery while he was starting a distillery. \u201cIt constantly felt like there was this invisible string pulling us together at different times in our life where we missed each other,\u201d she said. \u201cThe producers pulled us aside, and they were like, \u2018Do you guys know each other?\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n Back in Boston, Erika started having \u201cdirect conversations\u201d about their future, including money. \u201cFinances are something that, over time, you start to see some patterns and traits. Like, \u2018What credit cards are they using? Are they paying with cash?\u2019\u201d she explained.<\/p>\n When it came to possibly buying a home together in St. Thomas, she needed to know what Blake could bring to the table. \u201cI couldn\u2019t foot the bill all on my own because I already have a mortgage,\u201d she said. \u201cSo we [had to figure out if] we both have the ability to split 50\/50 rent or buy a property.\u201d<\/p>\n Meeting Blake\u2019s friends didn\u2019t help either. Erika said his inner circle grilled her on whether she could handle island life. \u201cYou have his two closest friends kind of heed a warning, and in the moment I almost felt attacked,\u201d she said. Things got worse when one of his friends refused to speak to her at all. Blake said he kept his distance at a later outing to protect her from that friend\u2019s judgment, but Erika felt shut out.<\/p>\n In the end, the biggest issue was kids. Erika said that in the pods, Blake committed to starting a family within five years, but once they were together, that became 10. \u201cThat is a really big difference for a woman,\u201d she said. \u201cNot being able to align on kids, finances, where to live, these are the big core [issues]. That\u2019s everything.\u201d<\/p>\n Once the wedding invitations went out, the pressure became real. \u201cWell, if logistics aren\u2019t in your favor, is love then strong enough to go through all this?\u201d she said.<\/p>\n With a week to go, Blake had been to Erika\u2019s house, met her dogs and her parents, and seen her at work, but she still hadn\u2019t experienced any of his world. \u201c\u2018I can\u2019t marry you, I haven\u2019t seen enough of your life,\u2019\u201d she remembers thinking. \u201cIt just started to feel really dangerous to get any closer to the wedding having already been through a divorce.\u201d<\/p>\n Blake felt more confident. \u201cThere\u2019s nothing I would change about this,\u201d he told her. \u201cBut this isn\u2019t our real life,\u201d Erika replied.<\/p>\n With Erika due on a work trip and Blake heading back to sea, they talked about what married life would really look like. \u201cIf we want to stay together, then we have to see each other,\u201d Erika told him. Blake didn\u2019t push back. \u201cI think you need to follow your heart and do what you need to do,\u201d he said. \u201cAnd hopefully that [means you end] up with me, but we\u2019ll see. I don\u2019t want to let you go, but I don\u2019t want to hold you back either.\u201d<\/p>\n The couple decided to leave the experiment, and Blake admitted he felt a little relieved. \u201cI think it\u2019s the right move,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n But Erika says it wasn\u2019t necessarily the end for them. \u201cIt was more \u2018Let\u2019s call the wedding off and see what it\u2019s like on the other side,\u2019\u201d she said. \u201cWe wanted to continue to try it on our own terms. It was something that we felt like was a better option. I am grateful that we took the path that we wanted to take together.\u201d<\/p>\n Whether they\u2019re still together will be revealed at the upcoming reunion, which you can actually watch a whole day early. 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So, why did Erika end her engagement to Blake on Love Is Blind?<\/h2>\n
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