{"id":505,"date":"2021-04-29T10:16:55","date_gmt":"2021-04-29T09:16:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/realitytvshrine.com\/?p=102704"},"modified":"2025-02-07T17:05:21","modified_gmt":"2025-02-07T17:05:21","slug":"bengi-first-dates-hotel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thetab.com\/realityshrine\/2021\/04\/29\/bengi-first-dates-hotel\/","title":{"rendered":"Who is Bengi from First Dates Hotel? Story of losing mum has fans in tears"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>Viewers of <em><a href=\"https:\/\/realitytvshrine.com\/channel-4\/hattie-and-lawrence-first-dates-hotel\">First Dates Hotel<\/a><\/em> were left in tears, after a date-goer shared their traumatic story of their mum being murdered.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It came as part of the Channel 4 series, which takes Britons abroad in the hopes of finding them their perfect love match.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The series finale saw Bengi go on a date with Lara, which led to him opening up about the heart-breaking loss of his mother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Keep reading to meet Bengi, learn more about his story and find out what his relationship with his mum was like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Who is Bengi on First Dates?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Bengi, 24, is a Chelmsford man who likes to count his blessings every day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Revealing he says five things he is grateful for every morning, Bengi goes on to say that he is scared he might be a &#8220;bit of a plonker&#8221; on a date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He adds that he&#8217;s never had a date before, and lists the type of lady he&#8217;s looking for: 5 ft 5, olive skin, brown hair, with a very natural face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bengi, who says he is a &#8220;bit of a Buddhist&#8221;, wants to be with someone who he can bounce off, and be there for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He is currently in training to become a youth worker.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed-twitter wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\nhttps:\/\/twitter.com\/LadyNakanoT\/status\/1387504879980228609\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/realitytvshrine.com\/channel-4\/winston-and-ben-first-dates\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>FIRST DATES HOTEL:<\/strong><\/a> Winston thinks he&#8217;s the &#8216;only gay in the village&#8217;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Bengi and Lara&#8217;s date<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Within minutes, Bengi said he felt like Lara made put him at ease.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They made each other laugh, and Bengi revealed he was a bit naughty at school, before opening up about a &#8220;big trauma&#8221; which affected his life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Feeling slightly hesitant to open up on the first date, Lara filled the gap and went on to tell him that she also had a trauma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She revealed she was bullied at an independent school, where girls drew pictures of her, called her fat and ugly, and told others not to speak to her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It got deep between them, which led to them both agreeing they only have 40 per cent of love for themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed-twitter wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\nhttps:\/\/twitter.com\/paul_neave\/status\/1387505600184164361\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Bengi opens up about his mum<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Bengi told Lara that, when he was 15 years old, his mum got murdered by a man who used to pick him up from school.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He said that getting that phone call was the worst day of his life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bengi added:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>I remember walking for miles, a black and white movie playing in your head of the good times. I miss the affection, she was so affectionate with me, and we used to just dance in the front room together.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Six months after, Bengi would call his mum&#8217;s phone every day. He said that a &#8220;piece of his soul feels like it&#8217;s missing&#8221;.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is clear that Bengi was incredibly close to his mum, and wrote underneath a Facebook picture of them: &#8220;I have shared this picture but I can&#8217;t physically look at it.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed-facebook wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-facebook\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\nhttps:\/\/www.facebook.com\/bengi.stubbings.7\/posts\/1824381834382502:0\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/realitytvshrine.com\/whats-on\/archie-teen-first-dates\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>TEEN FIRST DATES:<\/strong><\/a> Meet Archie &#8211; who forgot his date&#8217;s name!<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What happened next for Bengi and Lara?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>They both admitted they fancied each other, and planned to go horse-riding together after their date. But the episode revealed they were yet to meet up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bengi is currently single, so things didn&#8217;t work out for them. However, the episode outlined that he still hopes he&#8217;s the front runner for Lara&#8217;s heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Several fans wanted Bengi and Lara to open up a therapy centre together, as they both want to help people as a result of their pain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed-twitter wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"550\" data-dnt=\"true\"><p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">Dear dating gods, please let Lara &amp; Bengi find happiness together &amp; open up a therapy centre \ud83d\ude4f\ud83c\udffb <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/firstdateshotel?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">#firstdateshotel<\/a><\/p>&mdash; Kelly Muggs \ud83c\uddfa\ud83c\udde6 (@kellyloumugg) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/kellyloumugg\/status\/1387505123107250179?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">April 28, 2021<\/a><\/blockquote><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><em>WATCH FIRST DATES HOTEL ON <a href=\"https:\/\/www.channel4.com\/programmes\/first-dates-hotel\/on-demand\/69060-018\">ALL 4<\/a> NOW<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\"><strong>AND GET FREAKY WITH US ON\u00a0<a class=\"\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/realitytitbit\/\" target=\"_blank\">INSTAGRAM<\/a>\u00a0AND\u00a0<a class=\"\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/business.facebook.com\/realitytitbit\/\" target=\"_blank\">FACEBOOK<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Viewers of First Dates Hotel were left in tears, after a date-goer shared their traumatic story of their mum being murdered. It came as part of the Channel 4 series, which takes Britons abroad in the hopes of finding them their perfect love match. The series finale saw Bengi go on a date with Lara, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":249734182,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1358],"tags":[1485],"class_list":["post-505","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-news","tag-first-dates-hotel"],"acf":[],"parsely":{"version":"1.1.0","canonical_url":"https:\/\/realitytvshrine.com\/realityshrine\/2021\/04\/29\/bengi-first-dates-hotel\/","smart_links":{"inbound":0,"outbound":0},"traffic_boost_suggestions_count":0,"meta":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@type":"NewsArticle","headline":"Who is Bengi from First Dates Hotel? 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