{"id":42405,"date":"2026-01-09T11:30:25","date_gmt":"2026-01-09T11:30:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thetab.com\/realityshrine\/?p=42405"},"modified":"2026-01-09T11:30:25","modified_gmt":"2026-01-09T11:30:25","slug":"rhobhs-erika-jayne-reveals-the-one-thing-that-attracted-her-to-new-man-john-shrek-mcphee","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thetab.com\/realityshrine\/2026\/01\/09\/rhobhs-erika-jayne-reveals-the-one-thing-that-attracted-her-to-new-man-john-shrek-mcphee\/","title":{"rendered":"RHOBH&#8217;s Erika Jayne reveals the one thing that attracted her to new man John &#8216;Shrek&#8217; McPhee"},"content":{"rendered":"<p data-start=\"89\" data-end=\"640\">Erika Jayne is officially in her \u201csoft life, slower pace\u201d dating era, and honestly, it suits her.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"89\" data-end=\"640\">After years of headline-heavy chaos and keeping her private life locked down tighter than a Birkin in a vault, the RHOBH star has quietly been getting to know a new guy: <a href=\"https:\/\/thetab.com\/realityshrine\/2026\/01\/05\/rhobhs-erika-jaynes-new-boyfriend-is-nicknamed-the-sheriff-of-baghdad-meet-john-mcphee\/\">John \u201cShrek\u201d McPhee<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"89\" data-end=\"640\">The pairing is unexpected, which is exactly why people can\u2019t stop talking about it. And now Erika\u2019s finally spilling a little more, including the one quality that made her look twice.<\/p>\n<h2 data-start=\"642\" data-end=\"690\">Erika confirmed her romance back in July 2025<\/h2>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">Erika Jayne opens up about her new relationship and why she wants to keep it private. \u201cI like him and I know how bad these [shows] are for your relationship. I\u2019ve gone through too much. I would like to keep that relationship special.\u201d Source: Us Weekly <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hashtag\/RHOBH?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">#RHOBH<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/QZmaufPhCt\">pic.twitter.com\/QZmaufPhCt<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Bye Wig Hello Drama (@HousewivesHub) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/HousewivesHub\/status\/2007874990235131963?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">January 4, 2026<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p data-start=\"692\" data-end=\"1085\">If you remember the paparazzi photos of Erika holding hands with a man in Los Angeles, that was the moment the internet went full detective mode.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"692\" data-end=\"1085\">Soon after, <a href=\"https:\/\/thetab.com\/realityshrine\/2026\/01\/07\/theyre-from-different-worlds-so-how-did-erika-jayne-and-her-boyfriend-john-mcphee-meet\/\">Erika addressed it<\/a> on her Diamonds in the Rough podcast: she\u2019d met someone, they\u2019d gone on two dates, and then tried to do something super normal, a manicure-pedicure, when the pics were taken.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"692\" data-end=\"1085\">Erika was pretty candid that the \u201cprivate\u201d part disappearing overnight wasn\u2019t exactly her favourite. She said what felt like a sweet, low-key moment \u201cended up everywhere,\u201d but that it\u2019s the trade-off that comes with being famous.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"1356\" data-end=\"1582\">One detail she made clear from the start: John doesn\u2019t live in Los Angeles, which immediately explains how she\u2019s managed to keep this relationship feeling a bit more protected and\u2026 &#8216;normal&#8217;.<\/p>\n<h2 data-start=\"1584\" data-end=\"1622\">Who exactly is John \u201cShrek\u201d McPhee?<\/h2>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/reel\/DH68c7DNlVG\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; 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text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/reel\/DH68c7DNlVG\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">A post shared by John \u2018Shrek\u2019 McPhee (@sobtactical)<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p data-start=\"1624\" data-end=\"1839\">First: yes, the nickname is real. <a href=\"https:\/\/thetab.com\/realityshrine\/2026\/01\/09\/erika-jaynes-new-man-john-shrek-mcphee-opens-up-about-his-traumatic-childhood\/\">John McPhee<\/a> is widely known as \u201cShrek,\u201d and he\u2019s also associated with the moniker \u201cSheriff of Baghdad\u201d through his personal brand and business.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"1841\" data-end=\"2187\">As for the basics, he&#8217;s a retired US Army special operations sergeant major.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"1841\" data-end=\"2187\">He\u2019s also been connected to Heidi Montag\u2019s world, including working security for her, which becomes very relevant to Erika\u2019s meet-cute.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2189\" data-end=\"2370\">And if you love a wild Bravo-adjacent crossover, Erika has said John was in London with Spencer Pratt when they met. Yes. He&#8217;s besties with that <a href=\"https:\/\/thetab.com\/realityshrine\/2026\/01\/08\/the-hills-star-spencer-pratt-announces-hes-running-for-la-mayor-so-what-are-his-policies\/\">Spencer Pratt<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2 data-start=\"2372\" data-end=\"2414\">Erika dishes on what really attracted her<\/h2>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-captioned=\"\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/Cvafh-wyQV9\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\"><a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/Cvafh-wyQV9\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">A post shared by Erika Jayne (@theprettymess)<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2416\" data-end=\"2684\">So what was it that hooked Erika? Not the nickname, not the headlines, it was the energy.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2416\" data-end=\"2684\">Speaking to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.usmagazine.com\/entertainment\/news\/erika-jayne-shares-why-rhobh-costars-havent-met-her-new-boyfriend\/\">Us Weekly<\/a>, Erika described John as \u201ccalm\u201d and \u201ccentered,\u201d and said she needs to feel comfortable and peaceful after everything she\u2019s been through.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2686\" data-end=\"2867\">She\u2019s also said there were more attractive traits to John: &#8220;I like people who are confident and intelligent. I was married to somebody who was really good at their job for a long time&#8230;&#8221;<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2869\" data-end=\"3133\">And honestly, the most telling compliment she keeps repeating is also the simplest: he\u2019s a \u201cnice man,\u201d and she feels comfortable with him, comfortable enough to hold his hand in public, even if that turned into a whole thing!<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3204\" data-end=\"3449\">This is where it gets oddly wholesome. Erika said she first noticed John after seeing him on podcasts and finding him interesting, then later spotted him backstage in London at the Mighty Hoopla festival.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3451\" data-end=\"3611\">In true Pretty Mess fashion, she didn\u2019t wait around. She walked up, introduced herself, and even told him she was a fan.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"3613\" data-end=\"3860\">And if you\u2019re wondering where things stand now&#8230; Erika told <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bravotv.com\/the-daily-dish\/erika-jayne-shares-rare-details-on-boyfriend-john-mcphee-relationship-update-december-2025-exclusive\">Bravo<\/a> in December 2025 that everything was going great, she\u2019d been spending the holidays with him, and that they\u2019d been dating for about six months.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><i>For all the latest reality TV cast member news, scandals, gossip and updates \u2013 like\u00a0<\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/realitytvshrine.com\/\"><span class=\"s1\"><b><i>Reality Shrine<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/a><i>\u00a0on\u00a0<\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/realityshrineofficial?rdid=TzQu2kEd2cUqU4rD&amp;share_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fshare%2F14zX5cKubf%2F#\"><span class=\"s1\"><b><i>Facebook<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/a><i>.<\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>She&#8217;s literally smitten<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":249734210,"featured_media":42408,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1358],"tags":[1552,2005,1565],"class_list":["post-42405","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-news","tag-bravo","tag-real-housewives","tag-the-real-housewives-of-beverly-hills"],"acf":[],"parsely":{"version":"1.1.0","canonical_url":"https:\/\/realitytvshrine.com\/realityshrine\/2026\/01\/09\/rhobhs-erika-jayne-reveals-the-one-thing-that-attracted-her-to-new-man-john-shrek-mcphee\/","smart_links":{"inbound":0,"outbound":0},"traffic_boost_suggestions_count":0,"meta":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@type":"NewsArticle","headline":"RHOBH&#8217;s Erika Jayne reveals the one thing that attracted her to new man John &#8216;Shrek&#8217; 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