ANNA SHEINMAN asks Tab readers why their relationships at Cambridge ended. Here's what they told her...
The Why We Broke Up Project, created by Daniel Handler, (better known to us as Lemony Snicket) to accompany his new book of the same name is a space for anyone and everyone to explain, anonymously, why it all went tits up.
From mother’s birthday parties to silver lamé bikinis (there’s a great selection on the Guardian here), and from heartfelt to deeply cutting – they are varied and totally compelling.
I wondered if at Cambridge the answers would be any different, have a certain flavour perhaps. And so I asked: why did you break up? And here’s what you told me:
Your first came first, your feelings for your ex-girlfriend second, the fact that I had fallen for you really, really hard, didn’t even get a look in.
We broke up because you put your work schedule before me.
You were charming, erudite, gorgeous, caring, my parents loved you, but the sex was… well, my friends refer to you as ‘30-second-Sam’.
We broke up because you joked that you’d send your mother with me to buy your engagement ring to make sure it was expensive enough. It wasn’t funny.
You were at LSE, I was here, my work load made seeing each other difficult, and since we were both in first year, that wasn’t going to change any time soon. I guess you were the one that got away, but you have a new girlfriend, who is not just lovely but beautiful (I take that as a personal compliment!) and you and I are friends, so I guess I’m happy for you.
You were not a Cantab. This wasn’t the problem. The problem was you didn’t really grasp the concept of cliché. It was excruciating.
It was too difficult keeping it a secret and I wasn’t willing to share what was going on with the rest of college.
I couldn’t fix you.
You were a bit chubs, and I don’t do fatties.
We worked better as friends. I found you attractive when we talked but not when we kissed and I’m pretty sure the feeling was mutual.
We broke up because I thought I’d found someone better. I was wrong. I’ll always be sorry.
We broke up because it turned out you had simply memorised three interesting topics of conversation.
We were just sleeping together, and you found a nice girl who took you seriously. Good for you.
We broke up because you got with someone in front of me in Life.
We broke up because I was going to Cambridge, and you were going to Oxford. Given that on our ensuing gap years I went backpacking, and your Daddy paid for you to go skiing, I think the distance was more philosophical than geographical.
We broke up because you slept with your flatmate.
We broke up because you told me you didn’t believe in marrying for love and in today’s world marrying for money was the only realistic option.
I compromised who I was for you – I loved you too much and you didn’t deserve it.
We broke up because you told me that your mother “worked hard for her money” so didn’t deserve to be paying the amount of tax that she did.
We broke up because I couldn’t go for five minutes without receiving countless texts and missed calls asking if I was with other girls.
We broke up because you loved your mother more than me.
The sex just didn’t work. We got on well, albeit drunkenly. In hindsight, this was probably the issue.
We broke up because I was waiting for hidden depth. Then I realised you were just as empty as the first 7 months suggested. So I stopped waiting.
You look too much like a child. You’re a lovely boy, you just look like you’re 12 years old.
We broke up because of so many reasons. Too many to list.
We broke up because you were a bit too… how can I put this… racist?
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